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A year ago today

Postby blmave86 on September 12th, 2006, 5:21 am

A year ago today my mom died after a nasty bout with liver disease and losing her husband of 50 years only months before. I did not realize it would bother me so much, but I did not have time to mourn my dad because my mom needed me and last year on the anniversary of his death, I was still dealing with the loss of mom - it was very hard on my daughter.

I did not realize this time of year would bring back all those memories. It seems like it was just yesterday.

Not quite sure why I posted this. I have no family left except my daughter, maybe that is why and to point out that emotional upsets really do affect this BFS business.

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Postby Christina on September 12th, 2006, 7:39 am

Hi Shirley,

I don't think that we ever get over the loss of a parent. I know that I will miss my Dad forever.

I ran across the funny, funny movie Arthur last week when I couldn't sleep one night (with the late Dudley Moore)...when I tuned in it was a scene where he was in a bar telling a drunk that he just lost his "Father"...the drunk replied to him "that's terrible, I'm sorry"...Arthur replied, "don't be, I'm glad that I knew him at all". Silly that made me think...we are so much better off for having the people that we lost for the time that we did, then never having the beauty of them in our live's at all, even though we suffer so at their loss.

I hope that you find some peace soon.

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Postby carrilynn on September 12th, 2006, 11:15 am

Dearest Shirley,

I'm sorry your having a rough time but know you have every right. The loss of someone close to us is very difficult.
I know, I lost my father almost 6 years ago and I still feel the pain.

The only thing I can offer is over time your pain will lesson. You will remember only the good times not the ones laced with there deaths. Continue to share all those happy memories with your daughter, it will make you both smile.
Take care of yourself.

Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped away into the next room,
I am I and you are you;
Whatever we were to each other, That we still are.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used,
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we shared together.
Let my name ever be the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant,
It is the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well.


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Postby blmave86 on September 12th, 2006, 3:22 pm

Thanks,
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