by chrissi on October 31st, 2012, 12:42 pm
I am on this forum now for almost one and a half year. I have fought my beast and hoped to help others. But today I found out....it does not help. It does not help anyone to be told over and over they are OK. All the information needed is on this board in the basic articles, and the rest won't help. Every single person I tried to intensely help is now in a worse state than before. Not one person that REALLY took a long term benefit from anything said and done. It seems that the fear of this damned disease is just overwhelmingly powerful. Seeing how this fear is like a worm eating through the lifes of the wonderful, intelligent and warm hearted people I met here, is one the most shattering things I ever faced in my life. So I kind of retire , at least for a while, maybe I will have an idea how to help. If not, I just leave this note: ALL you have to know about BFS is in the old posts, like BFS in a nutshell. And for everything else: if this information and your neuros words are not enough for you, then you need to work on your anxiety. Make a therapy , whatever. Constantly seeking for reassurance is hurting you. And even worse: i feel that with every sentence I tried to reassure a scared person, I have done more harm than help. Because it hindered this person to take care for him or herself. And it took away time from my family and marriage without doing any good. This is my bottom line for the last months. Think twice about what you ask for and what you give, if it will be beneficial for any side or not..
"Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it" Kahlil Gibran
Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained