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cell phones and tweens

PostPosted: October 2nd, 2008, 8:26 am
by bktisbury
my 11 year old is desperate for a cell phone. her requests are just constant. i am standing firm-- no cell until she needs one-- ( i pick her up at school and take her to all of her activities except for one in which she walks with a group right after school to her destination across the street realy and they all have cell phones)....now with the news that children shouldnt use them because their bones are developing and it could cause cancer? , i am really really not going to give in-- i also dont want her texting and emailing all the time-- not to mention the cost -- but she is an only child so we do have some luxury in that way---but i wanted to hear what you all thought...

Re: cell phones and tweens

PostPosted: October 2nd, 2008, 8:55 am
by ImOK
bk - 11 is a bit young - cells are easy to lose and drop - but they do make a nice accessory to match up to your favorite blouse! Joking aside, we bought one for my daughter when she started to have to travel by her own to school (14) and there's one thing you must realize - she won't be calling YOU if you do get her one unless she needs something. We had to have an agreement like I did with my son - if you can't answer or call me back when I call within a half hour, then it goes bye-bye. If it gets confiscated at school for using in class, then bye-bye. If it breaks or you lose it that doesn't mean you'll get a replacement. They both thought we were tyrants but now, years later, have actually thanked us for giving them a few guidelines when so many of their friends had none. Yeah, it's just a cell phone, and nothing compared to say, your kid's security; but it is also another method to teach responsibility, both fiscal and personal. Just my view.....

Re: cell phones and tweens

PostPosted: October 2nd, 2008, 7:21 pm
by postpartum
My 6 year old keeps asking me for one as well. But only because his new backpack has a pocket for a cell phone. I told him he could have my old one that no longer works and he was fine with that.

I would hold off as long as possible on the cell phone. In the next couple of years, I think it is reasonable to get her one (for safety reasons) when she is more independent. Right now you are still escorting her everywhere so she probably doesn't have much use for one. 11 is still pretty young for the responsibility. Although, I find kids today grow up so fast. My oldest is 7 but some days I listen to her and think she is a teenager (I'm not looking forward to those years with 3 of them).

Re: cell phones and tweens

PostPosted: October 3rd, 2008, 7:05 am
by sueboy
I have 4 kids. My oldest two are graduated--they got their cell phones at 15 when they started driving. I just got my 11 year old one this summer. It only cost $10.00 to add it to our plan per month (we were already paying for this because my mom was on our plan. She stopped driving so she did not need it any more)and the phone was free. Does he need it? NO I bet he only uses it several times a month. I don't allow him to keep it on him unless he specifically needs it to call home. I would not have got it for him but it wasn't an expense. I think they really need them more when they start to drive or do things with friends and need rides, etc. I read an article about they were unsafe for children to have them on them--radiation, etc. How did we survive all of those years without them. LOL

Re: cell phones and tweens

PostPosted: October 8th, 2008, 10:42 pm
by justcindy
Our boys are in college now. They got cell phones when they started driving. Although there are a lot of cons, it is a huge thing to me to be able to get in touch with them when I need to and as long as they answered and responded, I was okay. At least, until the girl friend came into the picture. But, she's gone now, so I guess its okay. Also, it was really good when he boys were running late on curfew. If they called ahead to let us know they were on their way, we weren't hard on them. How young for a cell phone? Hard to answer.

Cindy